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Who is preventing your growth?

Updated: Jul 2, 2022

We all have someone in our lives who holds us back - whether it's a friend, family member, or even a co-worker. But have you ever stopped to think about who that person is? Yes? NO? let me tell you something that will sound bitter to you. It's YOU; YOU! are your barrier to your growth. Strange, isn't it? 

And how in the world you will prevent yourself from reaching your full potential? In this article, we'll look at some of the most common reasons you prevent yourself from growing and how you can overcome them!

Your comfort zone

Your comfort zone is the sweet spot between boredom and anxiety. It's that Goldilocks place where you feel just right. But here's the thing: your comfort zone is also a growth killer.

If you're not careful, your comfort zone can become a trap that keeps you from reaching your full potential. That's because you're not challenging yourself when you're in your comfort zone. You're not pushing yourself to learn new things or grow anyway.

Of course, there's nothing wrong in taking a break and enjoying some time in your comfort zone. But if you find that you're spending more and more time there, it might be time to ask yourself why. What is it that you're avoiding? What are you afraid of?

Your comfort zone is a great place to relax and recharge, but don't let it become a prison that holds you back from reaching your full potential.

Your need for validation

We all have a need for validation, to feel like our efforts are appreciated and that we matter. This need is extreme in childhood when forming our sense of identity. But even as adults, we continue to crave validation from the people around us. And while a certain amount of validation is healthy, too much can actually prevent us from growing.

If you find yourself constantly seeking reassurance from others, it may be time to take a step back and evaluate why. Do you have low self-esteem? Are you afraid of failure? Or are you just looking for someone to tell you what to do?

Whatever the reason, needing too much validation can hold you back in life. It can make you afraid to take risks or try new things because you're worried about what others will think. It can also keep you stuck in the same place because you're afraid to venture out on your own.

If you want to start growing, it's important to start valuing your own opinion more than the opinion of others. Trust yourself and your instincts. And don't be afraid to take risks!

Your fear of failure

We all have a fear of failure and it prevents us from taking risks and trying new things. It's what keeps us stuck in our comfort zones.

But if you want to grow, you have to face your fears. You have to be willing to fail. Because only through failure that we learn and grow.

So don't let your fear of failure prevent you from growing. Embrace it and use it as motivation to become the best version of yourself.

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." -Franklin D. Roosevelt.

Your self-doubt

A lot of people ask me how they can become more confident and successful. They want to know what habits they need to develop, what books they need to read, and what techniques they need to master.

The answer is simple: You must develop a healthy relationship with your self-doubt.

Self-doubt is that little voice inside your head that tells you that you're not good enough, that you'll never amount to anything, and that you should just give up now.

If you're always listening to your self-doubt, then it's no wonder you're not making the progress you want in life. Your self-doubt is preventing you from taking action and moving forward.

The first step to overcoming your self-doubt is to become aware of it. Pay attention to the thoughts that run through your mind when you're trying something new or challenging. Are those thoughts helpful or harmful? If they're harmful, then it's time to start challenging them.

Start by asking yourself whether there's any evidence to support the things your self-doubt is telling you. Is there really any proof that you're not good enough? Is there any evidence that you

How to overcome these obstacles to growth

There are many things that can prevent us from growing and achieving our full potential. Here are some common obstacles to growth, and how to overcome them:

1. Fear of failure

Don't let the fear of failing hold you back from taking risks and trying new things. Remember that failure is a part of life and everyone experiences it at some point. It's okay to make mistakes – they can actually be helpful in learning and growing. Instead of being afraid of failing, focus on your goal and what you want to achieve.

2. Perfectionism

Perfectionism can also stand in the way of growth since it often leads us to procrastinate or avoid taking action altogether. If we're constantly striving for perfection, we'll never be satisfied with anything we do. Instead of being a perfectionist, aim for excellence – do your best and be proud of your accomplishments, even if they're not perfect.

3. Negative self-talk

Negative self-talk is a major obstacle to growth because it holds us back from taking risks and believing in ourselves. If we're constantly putting ourselves down, it's tough to see ourselves as capable and worthy of success. Instead of listening to your inner critic, focus on your positive qualities and what you're good at.

4. Limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs are another major obstacle to growth because it can prevent us from taking action and moving forward. If we believe we're not good enough or that we can't achieve our goals, it's tough to take any steps towards them. Instead of listening to your negative thoughts, focus on what you want to achieve and remind yourself that you're capable of achieving it.

5. Procrastination

Procrastination is often a result of fear or perfectionism, but it can also be a habit that's difficult to break. If we're constantly putting off taking action, it's tough to make any progress. Instead of procrastinating, focus on taking small steps towards your goal. Even if you don't complete it right away, you'll be one step closer than you were before.


Let us not be involved in doing the same thing repeatedly but expecting different results. Let us be action takers and not be the barrier to ourselves. Don't Settle for Less! Follow Your Passion!

Talk to me!

I am your coach,

Rosy Iyenkutty

CEO | Founder

Radical Image Consulting, Chennai


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